From Pressure to Power: The Leadership Journey of a Diamond


Leadership isn’t something that happens overnight—it’s a journey. A journey of growth, refinement, and becoming. It reminds me of how a diamond forms from coal. It takes time, pressure, and perseverance before it emerges strong, radiant, and valuable.

When I first stepped into leadership, I was far from polished—full of potential but still rough around the edges. I faced challenges that tested my faith, resilience, and character. At times, I wondered if I was even cut out for the journey. But looking back, I now see that every trial was shaping me. The weight of responsibility, the setbacks, the hard lessons—they weren’t meant to break me, but to transform me.

I remember one of the earliest sermons I delivered during my discipleship walk. I stood before the congregation, nervous but determined, and spoke about how God refines us—how He takes what seems ordinary and applies pressure, heat, and time to reveal something extraordinary. I likened it to the process of coal becoming a diamond. Just as coal endures intense pressure beneath the earth before emerging as a brilliant gem, we too must withstand the trials of life to become who God has called us to be (Benjamin, 2024, pp. 164–172).

At the time, I didn’t fully grasp the weight of my own words. But as I continued my leadership journey, I began to live them out. I realized that leadership isn’t just about reaching a position or achieving success—it’s about becoming. It requires growth, humility, and the courage to embrace every challenge as part of God’s refinement process. Instead of asking, Why is this happening to me? I’ve learned to ask, What is God teaching me through this? That shift in perspective changed everything.

Every great leader goes through a season of being “in the rough”—a time when their character and skills are being tested and developed. But just like a diamond, the refining process makes you stronger, sharper, and more brilliant. The key is to stay committed, stay teachable, and stay grounded in faith.

So if you’re in a tough season right now, remember this: the pressure isn’t there to destroy you—it’s there to refine you. Trust the process, embrace the growth, and allow yourself to become the leader you were always meant to be.


Benjamin, T. (2024). Leadership: Our journey and culture (pp. 164–172). TamikaINK.com.

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  1. E. P. SmithMarch 17, 2025 at 8:28 AM

    The reference of Leadership to a “Diamond in the Rough” here is just amazingly accurate. I concur.

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    1. QuintessentialUMarch 17, 2025 at 5:46 PM

      Thank you so much Dr. Smith! I truly appreciate your kind words and agreement. Leadership is a journey of refinement, much like a diamond undergoing pressure to reveal its brilliance. It’s not always easy, but every challenge, setback, and lesson is shaping us into the leaders we are meant to be. I’m grateful this perspective resonated with you! Would love to hear your thoughts—how has your leadership journey shaped you through the "refining process"?

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  2. Dr. Adrain MackeyMarch 17, 2025 at 8:59 AM

    This was just an amazing analogy. In so many ways a person could define themselves as that diamond rather it be as a leader or just a person going through and God can bring them out polished. Thank you in so many ways for this passage.

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    1. QuintessentialUMarch 17, 2025 at 5:50 PM

      Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! I love how you expanded the analogy beyond leadership and you’re absolutely right. Whether in leadership or simply navigating life’s challenges, we all go through seasons of pressure, growth, and refinement. But with God’s guidance, we don’t just endure—we emerge stronger, wiser, and polished for His purpose. I’m grateful my message resonated with you. Keep shining and embracing the journey!

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